June 29, 2022


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Addicted to Drama

Why Are Some People Addicted to Drama

The word ‘Drama’ is commonly heard and used in today’s world. This can be to describe something on TV or in a movie. It can also describe what is going on in one person’s life or the lives of others.

Dictionary meaning

And in the site.com dictionary drama is described as:

1. a composition in prose or verse that presents in dialogue or pantomime a story involving conflict or contrasting characters, especially those intended to be performed on stage; a drama.

2. A branch of literature that has a composition like its subject; art or dramatic representation.

3. The art of writing and producing plays.

4. Any situation or sequence of events that has obvious, emotional, conflicting, or conspicuous importance or outcome: the drama of a murder trial. 5. Quality gets dramatic.

So when talking about the word drama, it would be correct to say that drama exists without peace and harmony. And like most things on this earth, one too can become addicted to drama.

Two Kinds of Drama

In soap operas or films for example; drama is usually more extreme than in an individual’s life. However, even if one were to talk about the average person’s life; there’s still a lot of drama.

These can range from all types of events and outcomes. And what is certain is that one’s internal experience cannot be a calm and serene experience. External experiences can be just as chaotic as what goes on inside, if not more so.

And more often than not, it seems like this drama just happens and someone has no control over his expression. Because on the one hand there is drama in one person’s life and on the other hand there is the charm of drama in another’s life.

Visible and Invisible Drama

What happens externally is easy to see and what goes on inside other people’s minds and bodies is more difficult, if not impossible, to see. This applies not only to outside observers, but can also apply to individuals.

Meaning: thoughts, feelings, emotions, and even their own behavior can take place unconsciously and outside of their awareness.

What’s the Attraction?

So this begs the question: what attracts people to external drama? By being engrossed in and attached to the drama in other people’s lives, it allows at least two things to happen.

One of the things it does, is let someone escape their own drama. And secondly, comparing one’s drama with external drama creates a comparison. This comparison then allows one to see that their drama is not that bad and through this contrast one can feel more comfortable.

When talking about drama is one’s life, it’s as if this drama is following it. And it doesn’t matter where one goes or with whom; it is always there and is like a shadow that cannot be removed.

Drama Addiction

So whether one is running away from one’s own drama or getting caught up in the drama of someone else’s life, for real or through watching it on TV, there is an attachment there.

These attachments are usually out of one’s consciousness and make no sense to the conscious mind. And these attachments create the same habits and the same patterns of behavior.

Ego Mind

In order to understand why something exists in one’s life and why it keeps appearing, ego thoughts must be put into the equation. And the ego-mind’s way of seeing reality is largely through childhood experiences.

And through these early childhood experiences, the ego mind begins to form associations about what is safe and does this through what is familiar. What this means, no matter how functional or dysfunctional these experiences are: they will be associated by ego thoughts as safe.

Wounded Inner Child

Though time may have passed; all these initial experiences are still present in the wounded inner child. Old memories remain frozen and trapped in the body and someone will retrieve them through regression.

This means that a person will continue to experience the same feelings and behavioral patterns that have been associated with this inner child’s sense of security.

Drama Experience

When a person experiences this drama in their life and with it lack of peace and harmony, there will be certain feelings and mindsets. And these feelings, behaviors, and external manifestations tend to reflect early childhood experiences.

So what happened might be different on the outside, but how one’s feelings and thoughts on the inside were so familiar that any other way was unthinkable. And as a result; internal experience is not questioned or observed.

These feelings can be: hopelessness, rejection, abandonment, helplessness, helplessness, and fear.

Hidden Benefits

On the surface, this obviously has no benefit, but to the ego mind and the injured inner child they are familiar and therefore safe. What this also means is that the ego mind has based its entire identity on this association and so if the ego mind let go of it, it would seem like the end of its existence.

The ego mind also has all kinds of defense mechanisms to avoid looking at itself and dealing with what is better to avoid. He does this because he works on pleasure and pain. And what happened years ago in childhood will no doubt be painful and this means the ego mind will do all it can to avoid these early memories.


So through defense mechanisms such as: dissociation, repression, rejection and projection; all that has never been encountered will emerge in his interactions with others and as an internal experience. And this is why the same pattern will emerge and why drama often follows some people wherever they go and with whomever.


This shows how important awareness is. Everything that has happened in the past keeps coming back, because it hasn’t been revealed yet. Through the tendency of the ego mind to avoid what is happening, one ends up as a slave to their ego mind.

By being an observer of ego thoughts and allowing past feelings, emotions and thoughts to be expressed; someone has a chance to see that there is another way.

Drama exists as a choice or as a potential; it is not the only option and is one of many potentials.